If we picture life as a giant banquet table, where we seat ourselves relative to others will dictate the strength and quality of our relationships. Next to or across from? God has made it clear where He wants us if we'll only listen.
Relinquishing control within a group that is not unified is the last thing most people want to do. We'd all rather solve any problems ourselves. But like often times with God, He will make incredible things happen towards restoration when we follow through with the tough stuff - like asking for help.